The Critical Choice

 

The Critical Choice

To make a choice is to show engagement. And when a choice is truly critical for us, it becomes more than a decision—it becomes a commitment.

Without engagement, we do not gain new reasons for action, new responsibilities, or new values in life. A critical choice, then, is not simply about deciding—it is about becoming. And without passion, without a sense of involvement, the individual does not truly become oneself.

Søren Kierkegaard understood this deeply. For him, engagement was not an optional addition to action—it was its very essence:

“An action without the interest of an idea is like dialectics without the interest of knowledge – sophistry.”

Søren Aabye Kierkegaard 1813-1855

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When engagement is absent, something hollow emerges. Action becomes empty. Conversation becomes noise. Life risks dissolving into indifference.

It is in critical moments—those turning points in life—that this becomes most visible. Here, we are forced to choose with conviction. And what we choose must carry weight in itself. It must have intrinsic value. Only then can it sustain us.

What Does It Mean That Something Is “Critical”?

The word critical comes from the Greek krinein, a word that carries two meanings: to judge, and to distinguish.

In Plato, it appears as the act of judging—of examining and forming a conclusion. In Heidegger, however, the emphasis shifts. For him, krinein is about making a distinction—not between things, but between Being and beings. It is only through such distinctions, he argues, that we enter the truly philosophical domain.

These two meanings—judging and distinguishing—meet in Kierkegaard. And they come alive in the ethical life.

The Paradox of Choice

Kierkegaard describes a familiar human situation with unsettling clarity. A person seeks advice in a difficult moment. There are two possible paths. And then comes the honest—but troubling—response:

You can do one thing or the other… but you will regret both.

Here, we encounter something essential: the impossibility of escaping responsibility. There is no choice without consequence. No path without loss.

At first glance, this may feel almost hopeless. If regret is unavoidable, how are we to choose?

A Quiet Wisdom in the Midst of Choice

There is a short prayer, written by Reinhold Niebuhr, that has found its way into countless human lives, perhaps most visibly through Alcoholics Anonymous. It is known as:

 The Serenity Prayer:

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference.”

While it holds a special place within AA, where it often becomes a lifeline in the midst of struggle and recovery, its meaning reaches far beyond any one community. It speaks to something universal in the human condition: the moment when life confronts us with choices we cannot avoid.

In such moments, we are asked to discern what must be accepted, what can be changed, and who we are called to become in that tension. The prayer does not remove the difficulty—but it gives direction. It reminds us that acceptance is not resignation, and that change is not control, but responsibility.

Perhaps this is also what Kierkegaard points toward, in another language: that we are not freed from the burden of choice—but invited to carry it with honesty, courage, and awareness.

Formation: Becoming a Self

Kierkegaard’s answer is not to eliminate regret—but to deepen the self.

He points toward paideia—the formation of the soul. A lifelong process of becoming. Not a fixed identity, but an ongoing shaping of who we are.

The Norwegian philosopher John Lundstøl captures this beautifully. To become oneself is to take one’s own experiences seriously—to recognize that we are shaped by where we come from, by the culture and conditions we grow up within. Yet formation is not passive. It requires both continuity and rupture. Stability and change.

It also requires courage.

To remain in difficult, even painful situations without fleeing. To endure contradiction. To develop what Aristotle called practical wisdom—the ability to navigate life without placing oneself in situations one cannot bear.

And perhaps most importantly: to trust that standing within one’s own tradition is not a limitation, but a necessary ground for growth.

The Ethical Life

At its core, this is about learning to distinguish. Between right and wrong. Between what carries meaning and what does not.

The ethical choice is rarely between two equally good options. More often, it is between choosing what is right—or withdrawing into indifference.

And indifference, in this sense, is itself a choice.

To live ethically is to turn the gaze inward. To judge oneself. To reflect critically on one’s own life—on one’s abilities, one’s limitations, one’s past.

It is to acknowledge responsibility for what has been—and for what is yet to come.

And in this, something remarkable happens.

Freedom becomes concrete.

Not as an abstract ideal, but as a lived reality. We do not simply possess freedom—we are, in a sense, sentenced to it. Condemned to choose. Condemned to take responsibility for our own lives.

This is not something we can step outside of. As Heidegger suggests, it is already woven into what it means to be a self.

A Quiet Ending

Perhaps the critical choice is not about finding the perfect option. Perhaps it is about choosing with honesty. With courage. With engagement.

And accepting that to live fully is also to live with tension—with uncertainty, with responsibility, and yes, sometimes with regret.

But also with freedom.

References

Heidegger, M. (1977) [1927]. Being and Time. Gesamtausgabe, Vol. 2. Frankfurt am Main: Vittorio Klostermann.

Heidegger, M. (1975). The Basic Problems of Phenomenology. Marburg lectures, summer 1927. Gesamtausgabe, Vol. 24. Frankfurt am Main: Vittorio Klostermann.

Heidegger, M. (2000) [1931/1932, 1940]. Plato’s Doctrine of Truth. Sandefjord: Epos. Translated into Norwegian by Kåre T. Pettersen.

Husted, J. (1999). Wilhelm’s Letters: The Ethical According to Kierkegaard. Copenhagen: Gyldendal.

Kierkegaard, S. (1962) [1843]. Either–Or, Vol. 2. Collected Works Vol. 3. Copenhagen: Gyldendal. (Published under the pseudonym Victor Eremita).

Kierkegaard, S. (1962) [1848]. The Point of View for My Work as an Author. Copenhagen: Gyldendal.

Kierkegaard, S. (1967). Journals and Papers, Vol. 1. Edited by H.V. Hong & E.H. Hong. Bloomington: Indiana University Press.

Niebuhr, R. (1951). The Serenity Prayer. In The Irony of American History. New York: Scribner. (The prayer was used earlier, but this is the most used reference)

Pettersen, K. T. (2001). Paths to Self-Understanding: Foundational Issues in Social Work. Oslo: Oslo University College. (A master´s thesis in Social Work)

Plato (1997). Ion. In J. M. Cooper (Ed.), Plato: Complete Works. Indianapolis: Hackett.

Sartre, J.-P. (1973) [1948]. Existentialism and Humanism. London: Methuen.

  

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The Pragmatic Turn – Thinking That Must Work

 

The Pragmatic Turn – Thinking That Must Work

I remember when I first encountered Richard J. Bernstein’s The Pragmatic Turn. It did not feel like reading philosophy in the traditional sense. It felt more like meeting a way of thinking that I had already been living—without always having the words for it.

As a social worker, I have always been drawn toward what works. Not in a simplistic or technical sense, but in the deeper, human sense: What actually helps? What makes a difference in a life that is struggling?

This is where pragmatism meets me.

Jane Addams is perhaps the figure I return to most often. Not only because she was one of the early shapers of pragmatism, but because she lived it. She did not separate thinking from doing. Her philosophy grew out of lived encounters with poverty, inequality, and human dignity. That matters to me. It reminds me that philosophy is not something we stand outside of—it is something we live inside.

Bernstein shows that pragmatism is not a closed chapter in the history of philosophy. It is alive. And perhaps more relevant now than ever.

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Where It Began – and Why It Still Matters

There is something almost poetic in the way pragmatism entered the philosophical scene.

In 1898, William James stands before an audience in Berkeley and names something that had not yet been fully named. He points to Charles Sanders Peirce and says: here is the beginning.

From that moment, pragmatism becomes visible.

But what strikes me is not just the historical moment—it is the courage to name a way of thinking that refuses to stay within fixed boundaries.

Even early on, critics pointed out that pragmatism seemed impossible to define. Lovejoy famously identified thirteen different meanings of the term and dismissed it as unclear.

And yet, I find myself thinking: perhaps that is exactly the point.

Life is not one thing. Human experience is not one thing. Why should philosophy be?

A Philosophy That Must Be Lived

John Dewey described pragmatism as instrumental experimentalism. For me, this is more than a concept—it is a description of how life actually unfolds.

We do not begin with certainty. We begin in situations.

We try. We fail. We adjust. We try again.

In my own work, I have seen this again and again. No theory survives unchanged when it meets a real human life. And yet, theory is not useless. It becomes a tool—a way of seeing, a way of acting, a way of staying present in complexity.

This is where pragmatism feels honest.

It does not promise final answers. It invites responsible action.

What I learned during my education was, in many ways, indirect knowledge. It could not simply be transferred into practice.

I often knew, in theory, what should be done. I had the models, the frameworks, the interventions that were considered appropriate—for example when working with a child or a young person struggling with behavioral challenges, substance use, or involvement in crime.

But in practice, theory was not enough.

Because if the young person had a different understanding of their situation—if they carried a different logic, a different way of coping—then the theory alone did not work.

It was not my solution that mattered most.

It was theirs.

They were the ones living the difficulty. And so, we had to find something that actually worked—together.

Hilary Putnam – A Thinker I Return To

Among the many voices within pragmatism, Hilary Putnam is one I keep returning to.

Perhaps because his intellectual journey mirrors something deeply human: the willingness to change one’s mind.

He began within logical positivism—searching for clarity, precision, and certainty. Later, he explored relativism, where truth becomes dependent on perspective. But he did not stay there.

Because if everything is relative, then nothing can truly guide us.

Putnam moved toward something more grounded. A realism that is not rigid, but responsive. A realism that acknowledges that we experience the world through language, through symbols, through interpretation—yet still insists that something resists us, something meets us.

Hilary Whitehall Putnam 1926-2016. Photo from Wikipedia

“Mind Is What Mind Does”

One of Putnam’s ideas that stays with me is functionalism.

“Mind is what mind does.”

There is something liberating in this. It shifts the focus away from abstract definitions and toward lived function. What does a feeling do? What does a thought lead to? How does a mental state shape action?

In practice, this matters.

Because when I meet a person in distress, I am less interested in labeling the state than in understanding its role in that person’s life. What is this experience doing? What is it trying to solve? Where is it leading?

This is a pragmatic question.

Truth – Not as Abstraction, but as Guidance

Putnam’s later reflections on truth resonate deeply with my own experience.

We often speak of truth as something fixed, something “out there.” But in lived life, truth appears differently. It is connected to what we are trying to do, to how we orient ourselves, to what helps us move forward.

Truth, in this sense, is not arbitrary.

But it is also not detached.

It is something we discover in action—in the ongoing interaction between ourselves and the world.

This is not a weakening of truth. It is, in many ways, a deepening of it.

Why Pragmatism Matters to Me

When I read Bernstein, I do not just encounter ideas. I encounter a tradition that gives language to something I have long felt:

That thinking and acting belong together.

That philosophy should not distance us from life, but bring us closer to it.

That we are always already involved—making choices, taking responsibility, trying to do what is good in situations that are rarely simple.

Pragmatism does not remove uncertainty.

But it gives us a way to live within it.

And perhaps that is enough.

References 

Addams, J. (1910). Twenty years at Hull-House. New York, NY: Macmillan.

Bernstein, R. J. (2010). The pragmatic turn. Cambridge: Polity Press.

Dewey, J. (1929). The quest for certainty: A study of the relation of knowledge and action. New York, NY: Minton, Balch & Company.

James, W. (1907). Pragmatism: A new name for some old ways of thinking. New York, NY: Longmans, Green, and Co.

Lovejoy, A. O. (1908). The thirteen pragmatisms. The Journal of Philosophy, Psychology and Scientific Methods, 5(1), 5–12. https://doi.org/10.2307/2012812

Peirce, C. S. (1878). How to make our ideas clear. Popular Science Monthly, 12, 286–302.

Putnam, H. (2004). Ethics without ontology. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press.

Putnam, H. (1981). Reason, truth and history. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press.

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Kierkegaard: “Above All, Do Not Lose the Desire to Walk”

 

Kierkegaard: “Above All, Do Not Lose the Desire to Walk”

The great Danish philosopher Søren Kierkegaard wrote a letter to his sister-in-law, Sofie Henriette Kierkegaard (Jette), in October 1847. The letter has been preserved and reveals his deep care for her. She had become seriously ill and was bedridden.

Kierkegaard’s advice to her was simple—yet profound:

Walk.

He writes:

“Above all, do not lose the desire to walk. Every day I walk myself into a state of well-being and away from every illness. I have walked myself into my best thoughts, and I know of no thought so burdensome that one cannot walk away from it.
Even if one walked only to preserve one’s health, and this remained always just ahead—still I would say: walk!
For it is evident that by walking one comes as close to well-being as possible, even if one does not fully reach it; whereas by sitting still, one comes closer to discomfort.
The more one sits still, the closer one comes to illness. Only in movement can health and salvation be found.
If someone denies that movement exists, then I do as Diogenes—I walk.
If someone denies that health lies in movement, then I walk away from all sickly objections.
When one keeps on walking, everything will be all right.”
(Kierkegaard, Søren Kierkegaards Skrifter, Vol. 28, pp. 60–61 My translation)

Myself, on my way to Santiago de Compostella. Privat photo.

Walking as Life, Not Trend

In 19th-century Copenhagen, walking had become so popular that authorities had to regulate pedestrian traffic. As early as 1810, the police issued instructions recommending that pedestrians keep to the right side of the street.

Walking had become fashionable.

Kierkegaard, however, took it a step further. For him, walking was not a trend—it was a way of living, even a form of therapy. He claimed that he walked himself into health and into his best thoughts.

Of course, one cannot walk away from every illness. Anyone who has experienced serious disease knows this. Kierkegaard writes as a philosopher, not as a physician.

Yet his insight remains meaningful:

Movement matters.
Even—and perhaps especially—for those who suffer.

Movement, Even in Stillness

There is something striking—perhaps even unsettling—in the fact that Kierkegaard gave this advice to a woman who was severely ill and bedridden for the last twenty years of her life, suffering from paralysis and intense pain caused by kidney stones.

And yet, he encouraged her to move as much as possible.

Health, he believed, exists in movement.

Whether Henriette was able to follow his advice, or whether she experienced it as impossible, we do not know. But we do know that she deeply appreciated her brother-in-law and read his works with great dedication.

And perhaps there is another form of movement here.

Reading, too, is a kind of walking.

Along with the letter, Kierkegaard sent her a copy of his newly published book Upbuilding Discourses in Various Spirits (1847). I imagine that Henriette undertook many meaningful “journeys” together with him through these texts.

The Pilgrim’s Path

Kierkegaard’s reflections on walking are often echoed by pilgrims.

I think of myself as a pilgrim—someone who walks toward a sacred place. For early Christian pilgrims, such places included Jerusalem, Santiago de Compostela, and Nidaros (Trondheim).

I have had the privilege of walking 800 kilometers myself—from St. Jean Pied de Port in France to Santiago de Compostela. 

There are, of course, many sacred places. Different religions point in different directions. And today, pilgrims walk for many different reasons.

But for me, Kierkegaard’s reasons resonate deeply:

Movement makes me healthier.
I feel more alive when I walk.
And movement gives rise to good thoughts.

In that sense, the sacred place I walk toward is not only out there—but also within.

Why We Walk

Over the centuries, the meaning of pilgrimage has evolved. The Norwegian author Eivind Luthen (2003) offers a thoughtful summary of why people walk. I have taken the liberty of reshaping his points slightly—in the spirit of Kierkegaard:

1. We seek silence and peace through movement.
2. By walking at our own pace, we gradually stop rushing; our stress levels decrease.
3. It is important to practice being alone—even to experience loneliness—so that attention can turn inward.
4. Walking requires effort. One chooses to walk, places one foot in front of the other. This effort strengthens both body and soul.
5. Walking simplifies life. We rediscover three essential elements: movement, rest, and nourishment. We carry only what we need. Many burdens can be left behind. Life becomes simple when we walk.
6. When walking, we greet others. Even strangers acknowledge one another. A greeting is both a gift given and received—a smile, a moment of shared humanity. Pilgrimage is often called “a journey of love,” and it is freely given.
7. We may also learn from earlier times. Pilgrimage was once undertaken out of guilt, shame, illness, or a desire for reconciliation. This is still possible. One may walk toward healing—and toward better thoughts.

As Luthen writes:

“As long as one keeps walking, everything will be all right.” (Luthen, 2003, p. 11, My translation)

References (APA)

Garff, J. (2000). SAK: Søren Aaby Kierkegaard: A biography. Copenhagen: Gads Forlag.

Kierkegaard, S. (2012). Søren Kierkegaards Skrifter (Vol. 28: Letters and dedications). Copenhagen: Gads Forlag.

Kierkegaard, S. (2012). Søren Kierkegaards Skrifter: Commentary (Vol. K28). Copenhagen: Gads Forlag.

Luthen, E. (2003). Pilegrimsguiden: Tønsberg – Oslo – Hamar. Oslo: Verbum.

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The Path as Choice – A Pilgrim’s Reflection

 

The Path as Choice – A Pilgrim’s Reflection

Myself, walking to Santiago de Compostela. Privat photo.

I have walked the path myself.

From St. Jean Pied de Port, across the Pyrenees, through dust, silence, pain, and wonder—until I reached Santiago de Compostela. Eight hundred kilometers. Thirty days. Alone—and yet, in the company of thousands.

I did not return the same.

An Ancient Road – A Living Tradition

The pilgrimage is not only my story. It carries traces of something much larger.

As early as 1108, Sigurd the Crusader made his way toward this destination. Later, the Reformation of 1537 brought pilgrimage traditions in Norway to a halt. The roads fell silent—even those leading to Trondheim.

Centuries passed.

Then, in the late twentieth century, something began to move again. Since the 1980s, pilgrims have returned to the road. Today, thousands walk each year toward Santiago, carrying the scallop shell on their backpacks—a quiet sign not only of where they are going, but that they are on the way.

St. James – The Silent Companion

At the heart of this tradition stands James the Greater.

One of the disciples of Jesus Christ, among the closest, and the first of the apostles to suffer martyrdom. According to tradition, his remains were brought to Santiago, making it one of Christianity’s most important pilgrimage destinations.

But perhaps it is not primarily the history that makes him present on the road.

He is not the system builder.
Not the one who explains.

He is the one who walks.

Perhaps that is why he remains the patron saint of pilgrims: not because he shows us the way, but because he reminds us that we must walk it ourselves.

The Path Is Not Given

Before I began, I thought—as many do—that the path was already there. That it was simply a matter of following a route, reaching a destination.

But it is not like that.

I came to understand something of what Søren Kierkegaard writes: the path is not something laid out before us. It comes into being as we walk it.

Each day began anew. Each day required a choice:

Will I continue?
At what pace?
How will I meet what comes?

And perhaps most importantly:

Who do I choose to be in this?

The Gravity of Freedom

There are moments on the path when something quiets within you. Not necessarily outward silence—but inward stillness.

A point where you can no longer postpone, explain away, or hide behind roles.

You stand there—as the one who chooses.

Kierkegaard calls this “the dizziness of freedom.” Not fear of something specific, but a kind of trembling awareness that something is at stake.

And perhaps it is precisely there that life unfolds.

Walking Together – As Strangers, As Home

What changed me most were the encounters.

People from all corners of the world. Different languages, lives, and stories.

And yet—a recognition.

I have often felt like a stranger in the world. But here, something shifted.

I was a stranger—and at the same time, at home.

Not because we were the same, but because we shared something fundamental:

We were on the way.

Practical Philosophy – Lived

I have written that practical philosophy is about making choices and taking responsibility for the good.

On the path, this became real.

Not as theory. Not as abstraction. But as lived experience:

When the body aches.
When I meet another human being.
When I choose to open—or to withdraw.

Here, Kierkegaard meets Aristotle: freedom and choice, alongside phronesis—practical wisdom that arises in the moment, in the concrete.

Not as systems, but as life.

After the Journey

Looking back, I can say that I walked to Santiago.

But that is not the whole truth.

Something in me also began to walk.
And it has not stopped.

A Thought I Carry With Me

The path was not lying ahead of me.
It came into being through my choices.

Each step was not only movement through a landscape—
but a movement within myself.

And somewhere between being a stranger and belonging,
I began to sense
that it is not the destination that changes us—
but the act of walking.

References 

Aristotle. (2009). Nicomachean Ethics (W. D. Ross, Trans.). Oxford: Oxford University Press. (Original work ca. 350 BCE)

Kierkegaard, S. (1980). The Concept of Anxiety (R. Thomte, Trans.). Princeton, NJ: Princeton University Press. (Original work published 1844)

Kierkegaard, S. (1992). Either/Or (H. V. Hong & E. H. Hong, Trans.). Princeton, NJ: Princeton University Press. (Original work published 1843)

The Holy Bible. (2011). New International Version. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.

Vázquez de Parga, L., Lacarra, J. M., & Uría Ríu, J. (1992). Las peregrinaciones a Santiago de Compostela. Madrid: Iberdrola.

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